Have you ever had to decorate with your spouse? Well, if you have then I’m sure you have experienced the clashing of tastes and ideas.
My husband and I have been in the process if decorating our new place in North Carolina, and boy is it tricker than I thought it would be. Not because we are conflicting in ideas (that much lol), but more so because I can’t make up my mind on anything.
My husband is the real design guy. He can just get an idea and go with it and make it happen. Me on the other hand, I am not as talented lol. I second guess all design choices, including his, which I’m sure is very frustrating. Luckily, my husband is a patient man.
Anyways, here are some lessons I’ve learned in decorating with you spouse:
- Hear each other out. Really listen to what style and the over all feel you want to have in your home. After all, this is a space for both of you to live in. So, I would suggest sitting down and each person writing out a list with the overall look, style, and feel they want for the house or room to have and then get together after and compare lists. This way each person will have their thoughts written down and you guys can compare and see if you have any similarities in design ideas.
- COMPROMISE. This is the most important one. Both of you will not get exactly what you want. So compromise is the most important thing to allow for both people to be happy with the new designed space. I always say the best solution is to figure out what you must have and what you can be ok without. Both of you keep your must haves and be flexible on the other things.
- Buy, Try, Return. Buy new stuff that you think you guys would like in your new space. Then try it out, place it in the space and see if it works. If it doesn’t work and you don’t love it, then return it! Design is all about trial and error. Sometimes the things we think would be perfect for a space, just don’t work when we get them home. So be willing to make the trip back and return something if it doesn’t work out.
- Keep the design neutral. I try to keep in mind when I’m designing and picking out pieces for the home, that I’m living with a guy and he probably doesn’t want to look at a bunch of pink girly things. At the same time as a girl, I don’t want my home to look like a man cave. So we always try to find neural ground that doesn’t lean to far to the feminine or masculine side. (Though, my office space is super girly, pink chair and all!)
- BUDGET. This is a big one. Pick a budget and stick to it! Don’t over spend on design accents. The reason why I say this one, is because I personally change what kind of design I want frequently so I like to keep that in mind and not blow a huge budget. I would say make sure you spend our money on the big staple pieces like furniture that will stay consistent in your home for years to come.
- If you can’t think of where to put it in your house, then don’t buy it! Too many unnecessary design pieces is just clutter. Don’t over clutter your home with random design pieces. Keep your design accents simple and practical. AKA- keep your design minimalistic.
- Make your husband hang everything! 😉 My husband is super tall so it’s only fair he hangs all the pictures lol. No but really, it’s so much easier for his to hold up a piece while I decide where exactly it should go.
Lastly, HAVE FUN! Designing together with your spouse should be fun and exciting. It’s a time to collaborate and embrace each others differences and opinions. Plus, if you decide later you don’t like something, you can always sell it on offer-up or let go and start over fresh.
Stay tuned for some posts about my different design style for the home!
Talk to you guys soon!
If you follow me on twitter and instagram, then you probably saw my stories about when we were in North Carolina for a couple days, and well that has something to do with our exciting news!
My husband and I have been wanting to share this news with you guys for so long. But we had to wait till everything was in order before announcing. So now that everything is ready to go we can finally share the news!!!
DRUM ROLL PLEASE…….
October 13th, 2017 officially marked 8 years my husband and I have been together. Four of those years have been of marriage. We got married on October, 13th, 2013. I know that’s a lot of 13’s. If you didn’t see our very first Marriage Monday post, then make sure you go check it out because we explain everything about why we chose that number and more random Q&A’s. Anyways…. this year, our wedding anniversary landed on a Friday the 13th, which made it extra special!
I know that title sounds crazy and completely unlikely, but I swear these little gift ideas are all under $5! The inspiration for this post is that my husband birthday is actually TODAY (yay!!) and we have been trying this new thing where all the gifts we get each other must be under $10, so we can save money. And I got to tell you, I have been LOVING THIS!! It really forces you to get creative and come up with cute ideas instead of just buying a big gift. I have found that most of the time these gifts are super memorable and show so much thought, which is why I absolutely love doing this!
Some examples of things I have done in the past are cooking my husband’s favorite dinner or dessert. Nothing super creative, but you know what they say… the way to your man’s heart is through his stomach, and I must agree lol. But for my husband’s birthday this year I really wanted to get creative and do something cute and different. So here are some of the creative little ideas I came up with all for under $5!
So, where did I find inspiration for these ideas? Pinterest! Pinterest! Pinterest! This site has been great at helping me come up with all these incredible ideas, so definitely check there for some more inspiration! But in the meantime, these are some of my favorites!
OK here it is, my list of cute ideas for under $5.
If you’re like most couples, you are always trying to find ways to save money while not sacrificing date night. Many couples will skip a date night simply because the cost. However, date night is an essential time to connect with your spouse and get intimate. So, instead of skipping a night out together, I decided to come up with a creative list of cheap date night ideas that will allow any couple on a budget to still have an amazing night together.
I’m a firm believer that you should never stop dating your spouse and growing your intimacy together. It’s a great way to reconnect after a long week and can be a lot of fun too! You can check out why it’s important to continue dating your spouse here.
So, here is my list of 10 cheap date night ideas that will have any couple forgetting about their budget!
10 Cheap Date Night Ideas:
As I’m sure many people already know marriage is something you have to be willing to constantly work at. Marriage is more than just throwing a wedding and starting a family, it’s about choosing one person who you want to grow with and cherish for the rest of your life. And just like anything else, you can’t expect to never work at it, and everything to be perfect. Now, I’m not saying marriage is all work and no fun. Quite the opposite actually. I think half the fun of marriage is finding ways you can improve your relationship and make it even better than the day before, cause in the end it’s your spouse and you. Kids, pets, friends, they will all come and go but your spouse is that one person who will always be there with you, so it’s important to show your marriage the attention and love it deserves.
That being said, today’s marriage post is all about why dating your husband/spouse is a great way to grow your marriage. Now I just want to say, I am no marriage expert nor am I trying to be one. I just want to share with all of you the things that have worked for my marriage, and who knows maybe it’ll work for you too!